the safety of singleness

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.

― C.S. LewisThe Four Loves

it is far easier and safer to be single than to become vulnerable and invite someone to know you

that process is scary, painful, and beautiful

there are many things that will come up when walking the path of building a relationship; some good, some not so much

it is a choice to walk through that scary, painful mess and find the beauty

There is a restfulness I desire in my relationships. It is not a restful attitude of complacency, but a restful faith that as I walk with those I am in relationship with, they are there to walk with me, but they are not who leads me. The restfulness comes from the Lord; as much as this place and person changes, as much as the relationships will change,

it is scary to trust someone, even more so when you are at your ugliest; but the trust is not placed in the person’s actions and reactions; rather in the Lord

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